Comments on: Enabling Addiction- Help me with research!

By: Rich Odegard

Rich Odegard — Wed, 06 May 2009 17:36:57 +0000

We are at times blinded by a misunderstanding of “love” and “doing good.” Recognition of what we do to enable is critical -as it is always the first step to change.
Much of the time there is the intimidation factor and almost always some manipulation from the addict. “If you love me you will..”
Great subject DC. I will be praying for you!

By: Reanna

Reanna — Wed, 06 May 2009 01:24:00 +0000

Doing things for people that they can probably do for themselves…your probably not helping. I also have been on both sides. It seems to be human nature to want to help other people. Addicts can have a number of problems besides drugs, and who doesn’t have problems whether they are on drugs or not really? Good luck with your paper.

By: Daren

Daren — Tue, 05 May 2009 20:53:04 +0000

I think one of the reasons behind enabling people that I have seen if fear. Fear of what might happen to them if I don’t say yes. Fear of feeling like we will be the blame for what happens to them, if they go to an extreme to supply their habit. Fear of what my friends would think if they knew my son was an addict. Fear of what if rock bottom ends up being death. From my experience fear can play a large factor in a person enabling another.

By: Joe Broshous

Joe Broshous — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 06:09:12 +0000

David, I myself have been on both sides of the fence. Having been there sometimes actually makes it hard to say no to people sometimes. And then i tend to feel bad but after having it happen enough times I’ve learned how to say no even if i get that bad feeling as though i’ve let that individual down. I get the feeling afterwards as i’ve actually helped them by saying no. Can’t wait to read the book when it comes out.

By: Lynette

Lynette — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:37:32 +0000

Giving money to homeless people who were quite possibly addicts – yep – I’ve been guilty of it.